Is the marriage planned in the Beyond?

Generally the marriage union involves a harmonisation involving not only the couple, but also the spirits who will reincarnate as children. Obviously, planning is necessary.

 Is it done by the stakeholders themselves?

Ideally, we tend to take more seriously the commitments we make on our own initiative. Not always, however, do reincarnants have sufficient maturity and discernment to do so. The planning is done by spiritual mentors.

Is a possible second or subsequent marriage also planned?

When partners in married life separate irreversibly, due to insurmountable conflicts, it is only right that they should seek to recompose their affective life by seeking a new experience. If there is seriousness of intention and not merely the exercise of sexual promiscuity, so prevalent today, spiritual mentors can assist them in that purpose by guiding a new union.

 If a sequence of blunders occurs, will there always be new plans?

The mentors try to help us by showing us the way, but they are never conniving with our mistakes. A succession of unions indicates an inability to compromise and to live together. It is natural, in such cases, for them to step aside, removing the shields of their protection so that the mentored can learn from their own mistakes.

Ideally, therefore, should we "bear" the spouse in order to deserve the support of spirituality?

That is, perhaps, the biggest mistake. People "endure" the spouse for love of children or respect for religion, forgetting that they are together to harmonize, learning to live together fraternally. That implies changing pronoun, in the conjugal action verb: from the first person of the singular, I can, I want, I do, to the first of the plural: we can, we want, we do. Cultivating individualism in marriage is to condemn it to failure.

Would that be enough to be happy in marriage?

There is something else. People are waiting for the marriage to be successful in order to be happy, without understanding that they must be happy for the marriage to be successful. A bitter heart, an impertinent character, a vocation for aggressiveness, all these things dwarf existence and make us incapable of living together, particularly in the home.

And how to be happy so that the marriage is successful?

It is necessary to keep in mind that happiness is not subordinate to the satisfaction of our desires before life, but to the effort to understand what it expects from us. It does not take much to do. Just observe the fundamental lesson of Jesus: to do good to our fellow man that we wish him to do to us. It works admirably when it comes to harmonizing people, particularly at home.

 We know that in spirituality we tend to live with the Spirits that marked our affective life, the spouse, parents and children. So, who does the man who has married four or five times?

With no one. He will probably make a purification stop on the threshold, region of sufferings in the spiritual world, a purgatory where he will have the opportunity to meditate on his frivolity.